It is difficult being an empath as you feel for people no matter who they are, or what they do. I am so relieved I have found this blog. When in a relationship with a control freak then set a boundary and limit them in your lives. Yes, could disappear, but usually narcissistic rage. They can seem a little scary, and they are never approachable.
So will she have a sense of entitlement? Also, when I read that the problem is with the control freak and not with me, I wonder if that is necessarily true, since I myself could be just as much of a control freak as the other person. It is not you with the problem but this tactic may put you off guard, which is what the controller intended. Apart from that they can be charismatic and charming, so you wonder if they really are a sociopath? This behavior is also more typical where the power dynamic is disparate; for example: a boss-employee, teacher-student, or in law enforcement. With the control freaks in my life, this is only going to lead to an argument. I quite liked him really. This person may ignore your skills, experiences and rights, preferring to impress their abilities over yours.
I have told so many people my story and no one ever wants to talk or listen about it. As diagnosed psychopaths comment on this site. Selfish to myself, not malicious to other people. If you let the control freak get inside your head, then he or she wins. That means that the individual with the disorder isn't distressed by their disorder instead they distress those around them. Execute the process and keep your eye on the goal of getting done and out. I do have fears cause over the years my looks have defiantly diminished can I still hunt with only a cunt? The burden of proof will be on you so prepare accordingly.
Add drug addiction to the mix, and you have a living nightmare. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Take a gentle approach and ask them what they think of your ideas rather than just implementing them without any consultation which they would consider an aggressive attempt to undermine them. They lack the confidence and physical presence to pull off intimidation tactics, so they get to you by making you or unreasonable when you refuse their requests. Great advice to give someone who is a control freak.
Oh yes, they will pretend to be very laid back, life and soul and relaxed, but underneath this exterior is a simmering desire for control. However, don't compromise yourself either by breaking the law or hurting other people. Notice when the controlling person shows displays of trust. The weird thing was though was his eyes. There is a core of fearfulness or anxiety about their own limitations often unexplored , a worry about not being respected and a distrust in the ability of others to do what they ask of them. As I like to say, they are must be issued some sort of handbook when they are admitted to the club and have to abide by the rules therein. The problem is, if she wants to go to court, I am forced to go and pay the associated legal fees.
You could simply disassociate completely with the control freak in question, but sometimes that is just not an option, especially if it is a family member or someone close to you. Then you see the ranting, shouting, the colour drains from the face. It is not him or his life I am trying trying to control, it is finally my own. This makes just being around them exhausting. Want to Say Goodbye to Crazy? All I can say is wow this post relates so closely to my current situation.
When you know the truth about yourself good or bad , you won't be fooled by the control freak's emotional whims and tactics. They will live your life for you. The smear campaign done thru solicitors has been horrible. I took a beep breath and decided how I would go on. If the situation is intolerable, don't torture yourself; instead, find a way out. Protecting himself, and his own needs, is most important of all. They are highly principled, with opinions on everything from how people should hold their fork to.
It is a great relief to be done with him…whew! Just keep agreeing, so as to keep the peace, and try to keep the control freak from getting worried about your end. I am so broke and yet he mysteriously comes up with more and more money to lodge more court actions. Consequently, they struggle to maintain healthy personal and professional relationships. And really it is sad, and sometimes I feel sorry for him. And the comments are all very helpful to me and my sanity.
My main point though was not to vent, but to say that sociopaths true desire is to feel emotion ironically. God sake most obviously you know nothing! If you're aware that this person tends to fly off the handle and has fragile feelings, take care when breaking it off. Because he will go to great lengths to ensure that he does not lose control, or get exposed for who he truly is. I even had to move home. So, never feel unworthy of yourself and let these manipulators use your weakness against you. Read all about complex post traumatic stress disorder.