I have secert accounts to hide money. I miss him, But I know he has decided to do what he wants, he is not longer alive in that body, I miss the man I loved, pretty sure he is gone forever. I hope that helps Linda. I feel so alone like why am i here with someone who could care less if i was here or not? I realize it was sparked by stress but it has continued and worsened not gotten better. She has been taking antabuse and I just found out she had replaced that medication with Vitamin C — I had been asking to watch her take her meds. Thank you for the extremely helpful articles and advice I found on this site. About a month into living together, after I sold my home, I saw a trend.
He is drinking less, but it is picking up now. Al-Anon has one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. I miss him a great deal, he was my best friend, but at times he was verbally abusive called me a fat ugly troll. Hope Street wast way of hopefully giving inspiration to other people who find themselves where I was, married to an addict, a mother, alone, scared and tired. He knows I know but will still try to deny it. Shekeeps the house imaculent and has a wonderfull meal on the table on most days.
However, it is impossible to continue drinking heavily for a long period of time without suffering the physical and psychological consequences of alcoholism, such as liver disease, heart disease, neurological damage, cancer, or depression. I am telling her that your are no good for her and that you are hurting our relationship and the relationship of her family. I hope, one day, that I can begin to live without him. With all of that being said — I do not blame him for everything. Amanda Andruzzi, published author, Hope Street, a memoir from a co-addict I found this is column after researching addiction issues.
Needless to say his drinking has gotten worse over the years. Court order states no drinking at all and she does it anyway. . He slows down for a bit, but never completely quits. But, one thing you said before really struck a nerve with me.
That was 10 days ago. There has been no affection for a long time - just feeling totally crap at the moment. I find empty nips in the trash and once a half-empty bottle in his car. Another thing to consider is that your wife will not seek help… under the present circumstances. When she is sober she plays a completely different tune and seems to be concerned about her many of her friends getting divorced who are all providing her with marriage counseling. And tonight I made a big decision that I will help him. The lies, the cheating, the mental abbuse has damaged me.
He said you should drink you could get a little more comfortable. My dad also lived 5 mins from me and he and my mom where divorced. I know he loves me. For those that are curious — my husband is indeed still sober and is an amazing example of strength and triumph over addiction. The time to leave is now unless he seeks immediate help. Self-help organizations, church groups, and 12-step programs like Al-Anon and Alateen offer advice, hope, and encouragement to people involved with functioning alcoholics.
But then I focused on learning how to be alone without feeling badly. The outrageous stories they tell!!!!!!! You both have done it all night, in the morning, afternoon and even all day. I was well aware of these issues when we first met and i knew what I was in for and that these things will happen and maybe never completely go away. He is not willing to get help but wants me to stand by him and help him. We have no kids, she doesnt work, maybe that was the problem and I crucify myself with those thoughts for not making things different 10-12 years ago. We dated for 6 years before we got married.
Please God help us all. Before him, I was very active and athletic. He wouldnt give me an answer at first about the secrecy, im 99% sure theres not another girl. In my heart of hearts i know i need to move on. He recently came out of a 5-day detox program after drinking 750 ml of hard liquor per day, after I had told him that I was done with our relationship. You will be surprised what you learn to live with and when you have freedom from that, what peace and happiness you and your children might have. I grew up with alcoholism all my life.