So lovely that you have a very supportive husband. And I feel a real disconnect from him when I cant. I love my husband so much and my son is the only light in my life. I had no idea what was wrong with me. I pulled my soon-to-be wife into my arms and we sat together on the couch while she sobbed until we both fell asleep. I have arrived at the point where I am planning on a lifestyle change to ensure that I continue to get better.
It was not healthy for me or my daughter. Have you ever just taken to the bed? Challenge the negative thoughts with positive ones. I realize that his problem is some kind of undiagnosed depression or mental illness. It is important for your partner to get professional help, but your partner may also benefit from talking to you about their feelings. Being depressed is not an excuse to hurt other people. Im at the point where I think I should just end it. Thank you so much for sharing a way for me to show him.
It has been so hard. My anxiety increased at times but I was determined to stick together and turn things around for our family. I love him for knowing when I need it, but I hate thinking that my depression and anxiety have conditioned him to recognize my point of madness. I would rather choose to see him as a man who is succeeding in overcoming something much greater than financial trouble. Someone who isolates themselves from their social circles may be suffering from depression.
The anger and feelings of loss of personality continued. I was overwhelmed, not sleeping or eating well. I feel like having 3 instead of 2 children as our relationship is so unbalanced. From one person going through depression to another, I hope you feel better. All of these tips have helped both me and many other people I know who suffer from anxiety, but surprise! Helping your spouse get treatment, supporting your spouse during treatment, and taking good care of yourself are all important ways that you can help your spouse recover from depression.
It all seems so cruel. But they were not betrayed. Keep strong and keep on fighting! So much of this really gave me some perspective. Hes extremely outgoing, kind, funny and has a huge heart but he suffers from bad depression a few times every year. I love him so much and will never give up on him. He started on Cymbalta, which took the edge off a bit. My loving husband recognized that I needed just one moment of peace to find my footing.
All I want is some peace and joy in my life for whatever time I have left. Heth x Originally posted by: Lynthi on 28 April 2011 Hi Karen, You are a very good woman to stay and try and help your severely depressed husband. Create a strong support system around you, family and friends are an extremely effective stress antidote and buffer. He is also a cutter which he abstained from for many months but is now using with regularity. My husband's nephew committed suicide 2 years ago and I now think its a family disposition which worries me even more. She refused to listen and belittled me.
My parents divorced when I was two years old. I put on 40 kilos, My phyisical and mental health went down hill and I spent years going to gp,s endos who said there was nothing wrong with my thyroid!!. I believe these deaths were the first deaths he experienced since his mum and knocked him for six. But that will take years. Then came the big one, one night I was home alone again, desperately calling everyone I could think off trying to find her. He gets what he wants by direct threat or innuendo. To just go to a dentist appointment and a psychiatrist appointment to help me explain things since I freeze up.
Telling me he felt useless and hopeless and no point. When the black cloud is here it consumes my mind. Bizarre I know, but I know my fellow sufferers will understand the lack of motivation that often consumes us. It makes me feel very lonely and trapped and resentful. I am sorry you get the brunt of my anger on cloudy days.
If he wants a real life with you let him get hrlp before you toe the knot. Try to follow as many of the guidelines in the article and do your best to help them. When you reached your lowest low, you said something to me I will never be fully equipped to handle. She tried to commit suicide while pregnant with our child. Now mind you I was a very happy mid years I liked doing things,fishing,camping sometimes alone digging up clams,archery. I have some soul searching to do. It is important to note that with treatment, people with anxiety disorders can go on to lead productive lives that include successful careers, thriving social lives, and busy schedules.
I feel that deep down its the depression talking, as prior to this things were good. Talk to your husband, let him know how you feel, just try not to blame him. A man is more likely to deny his feelings, hide them from himself and others, or try to mask them with other behaviors. Sometimes the fatigue is so bad I just want to cry. The doctor can rule out medical causes of depression and then make a referral.