Her discovery that many of these married men were in sexless marriages is not surprising to me. I kicked my husband out of the house 2 months after that call. As you've thought about a confrontation, and even rehearsed different scenarios in your mind, what's been the state of your heart? She feels she deserves everything you have because she has struggled long enough and now she feels like you did at the beginning of yalls relationship. And stupidly I still love him. She said he mentioned me. Because no matter what, no one is going to put up with this when his true colours show.
You search for ways to make sure he is happy in the midst of all this stress. The end of the road is acceptance, we might still feel bruised at this point, but we are ready to hope and move on. He's a 31 year old professional with a 10 year old daughter,a 10 year old step-son, and now he is re-living his 20's. Confronting her on this will only make you look silly but I hear what you are saying. Yo can live together and he can anyway be far away.
She may get mad, but that is about it. It took me a loooooooong time to put the blame and responsibility where it belonged. Big old smug smirk on her face. Now I am not naive, so I know there will be a lot of school girl cackling, and disses going on in the comments. Or did she tell you it was over? I know from experience that most of the time they are not. She had no place in your relationship, and is irrelevant at this point. No revenge on my part was necessary.
I tried to 'break up' and place boundaries and all, and it 'worked' for some short period of time, then he just meled it all gradually and 'won me back'. Fact: you want him to suffer. I hope everything works out for you two, it be a bumpy road ahead so give yourself a break and go with it as best as you can. Besides my wife does not want to socialise with our kind, she is over it. Of course she was filling his head with all her agenda and how she was going to be the one who would end up being screwed and she was right, she was screwed in the end. And if she was such a very important person in his life, he would have chose her over me. I was so in love with him.
But it will be healing. This case study reveals how important it is to be ready for any response you might receive from the ow other woman. My H has thanked me many times for getting her out of our lives. I threw the proverbial scarlet letter A right in her face!!! Funny how he said to me the other day, that he would lose everything just to keep me. Intellectually we all know right from wrong, but sometimes making that right turn feels antiquated.
I would never have contacted her. She was born in Perú, raised in San Francisco, and is now living in Los Angeles. They are not superior to you, they are simply different from you. He told me you guys were a casual thing. And lots of other stuff too. Mind you this was in a very public place.
At this point we were now in our late teens. And how did you react? Want him to one day know the pain you feel… you hope that someone treats him the way he treated you. You would think through all this I would hate him? We are in counseling at his request and I believe we will endure this horrible nightmare. If a spouse through his actions decides that you are not good enough for him, that should not make you embark on a suicide mission. But then again she might not be a person with value of morality. The day after I found out all of this from his texts he went to stay with her for 4 days she lives 2 hours away. Again, something I was not used to.
But the difference is she is a nice person and not an egotistical bitch. I would let him know I know and tell him ask if he plans to keep things like this from you now that you are married. Ohh the joy, I will have when I move back down to my home in less than 3 months time. No kissing, hand holding, fondling etc. Rather than being a man about it and get out of the marriage, he decided to test the waters-so-to speak. He told me I was back stabbing, a witch, crossed him, no friend to him, that my children will be cursed, and that I will pay.
She did email me and said that I can be very glad that she lives in another country because she knows that it will not work. I feel beat down but I must stand up and reclaim myself. I'd like to know how sneaky he was, how long etc etc. A guilty spouse may be very eager to pin the blame for his error on the other party, whether he initiated the relationship or she did. He has always been very protective over his phone, which made me become suspicious of him. You were correct in only dealing with your H with regards to the affair and all the questions regarding the affair.