I will leave her in 8 years and have started the planning, like hiding assets and putting things in my daughter's name. As a therapist myself, I feel hypocritical when I tell other woman to run for the hills. When I went back to see the therapist, I was quite sure of myself and what I had been through and I had enough confidence to confront her with her own lack of understanding about the problem. When I first heard the term narcissist as a graduate student, I had a hard time labeling someone with such a label. She was upset when he flirted with other women at parties. I started spending less time with him.
My family advised me to stay. I feel as though I should have left in the beginning because it hurts so much more now. I am sorry you have gone through all of this stuff. So, to have a lawyer that believed you? It's been a living death being under his manipulation. And who will never really sincerely thank you or love you for it…they are not capable… Why would you want to waste your life on that if you had a choice??? How their child has hurt them. That's when I finally knew I wasn't just crazy as he always told me I was. Men have insecurities too, and sometimes they may make up for it sometimes in disagreeable ways.
I wanted so badly to please my husband and make him proud. Not sure if these are read. He had an ebay account and obsessively chased positive feedback for hours everyday. Once that goal was accomplished, he would move on to the next person. I was wondering if there is a support group that anyone recommends for co-parenting with a narc. Today I tried to ask him why he was screaming at me, he proceeded to give all kinds of excuses he was to busy. He doesbt care about his children never helps.
Reading these comments makes me feel a little less alone. You will need some evidence of the lies and erratic behavior. It was exactly what I had been waiting for He reluctantly agreed to move back. In addition, although 75% of people with narcissism are found to be male, women can also be narcissists. Now I understand what a con artist he was.
We must make a stand for our own well-being as the first step as to sending a message to a person with a narcissistic problem that they need to change. I will never let them feel for one moment that they are unloved. I don't like the way this feels but when you live with someone pathelogically selfish you have to adapt or die. I do think this is the first hope I've had since searching blogs on how to help, and how to love him. I was not willing to live a life that I had to cope with. If I complain he takes it as his insult …he has become very harsh in 8 months of ur marriage. To others he's delightful and charming but at home he's like a sergeant major and doesn't want to talk to me unless its about the house or to tell me I haven't done something- ahhhhhhh! When I left, I also signed this house over to him because I did not want any ties.
He stole his sisters stuff and gave to me which i discovered later. So many lies and manipulations. They didn't get the real love they needed from their Mom but, they got it from me; good words, encouragement, hugs, kisses, time alone with me. As you know, living this way takes your breath away at times. He is a feisty little thing whose issues run deep. I kept trying to talk to him but all he kept saying is relax. It has been 3 years since rhen and I come to the crossroads that i need to break free for my on sanity.
Counselling for you and your daughter is a great idea at this stage. A narcissistic wife is one who typically will engage in manipulative, intimidating and demeaning tactics to assert control over her husband. Because of her, I'm am more turned off and uninterested in women now than I've ever been in the past few years. Tomorrow I will be looking for a job within walking distance so that I can stash some money and get out of this. Try a reward compromise to encourage him to help you. I was grieving as hard as someone can and he was abusing me the whole time.
I am the oldest child 24 of my parents who are going through a divorce, I have siblings, a sister who is 18, and a brother who is 19. It is because the innocent creature, even of no use, would certainly love you back. You are worthy, and stronger than you know. I confronted him on that issue and he said I took his words the wrong way. Narcissists appreciate loyalty especially when it is done at their most embarrassing moment. I recently discovered he had a brief affair on the job while I was expecting our twin daughters.